Living with Testosterone Deficiency

This causes more problems than most women are able to admit. Low T in a man makes him less like he was when he was young. Not only does he have low libido, he does not care. He does not show affection, is not lovable, makes no mention of his feelings, like he has none and does not want any. Always grumpy and yet he insists that the wasy he acts has nothing to do with how he feels about me and I take it all as a personal rejection. He never holds my hands, kisses me like my brother does, seldom smiles at me. Seldom says anything nice accept, that was a good dinner.

It is like living with a male roommate or my brother. It is a horrible way to live after having had the relationship that we did for 20 years. If I knew he would turn out like this as he got older, I would never have married him. He knows that I am hurt and knows how I feel. We talk about it, I talk, he listens and does absolutely nothing to change. Tries to make me feel like I am sex crazy just because I sill would appreciate the closeness of a sexually active couple. I still need and want affection, physical intiamcy, emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. Just because he can’t maintain an erection or has difficulty, does not mean that he should forget that he is a man and that I am a woman.

He is not a stud. He is a gelding. I am not a filly but I am still a mare and like to be known as female. We lead a boring life and yet have so much to be thankful for but he and I just do not have even a fraction of what we once had and it is killng me.Sometimes I am so hurt that it is hard to be nice to him and he was once the most important person in my life. There was no one like him. I was blessed to have him as my mate. Now, he just exists. I look at him and sometimes wonder just who he is.