Coping With Prostatitis

I’m 33, and I’m battling against prostatitis. I will tell my story.

I’m just a normal student, which faces his daily dose of reality, just like every other.

I started to have heavy symptoms of prostatitis when I was studying engineering at the university. Headaches, nightmares, fever, pain in the legs, and an awful burning sensation in the pelvis. I loved bike riding, but I stopped completely because of this. When I was sitting on a chair for a long time, I also felt bad.

After some fever and pain attacks, I was lying in bed all the time and I begged my parents to take me to a doctor. I thought I had a bad urinary infection. I got Antibiotics and that was everything.

I was facing some other problems, the career was hard and because of some internal university problems, there was no motivation more.

1. I was seeing no future in the career, other than migrating elsewhere. I worked a whole semester in a robot, without stopping, and sleeping bad. It absorbed all my holyday.

2. My personal life was disaster, I was deeply hurt by a girl. I started to have nightmares with it.

3. My parents never like that girl, but I at that time it was difficult for me to understand their reasons. I was very disappointed with them.

4. My dad became sick because of the accident of a worker. He lost weight and got depressed. I supported him a lot, but I saw little progress.

All these things together almost stopped my projects. It was a bad combination of problems, and it took a lot of time to start overcoming them.

Meanwhile, I was sick in bed, thinking nightmares. I was afraid of my symptoms, I was convinced I had some kind of infection or even stones in the urinary tract.

My urologist detected a prostata inflammation. Some small pain in the tip of the penis was linked to the prostata as well. He gave me some antibiotics, some medicine for muscle relaxation, and he told me that prostata was linked also to a healthy sexual life. But I was in panic, I was afraid of prostata diseases, kidney stones bacteria, prostata disease of senior people and all that, and from the last relationship I had got so bad memories and I was so hurt, that I didn’t want to fall in love again.

Europe was a nest of more problems. After some semesters, struggling with hard conditions (accommodation, hard winters, no proper food, a lot of pressure and a strange lack of professional orientation for the studies, plus problematic neighbors and flatmates, and again, I got hurt by a local girl) and when similar conditions, prostatitis emerged again. Working under pressure for months, sleeping bad, eating worse, in a problematic environment.

Prostatitis emerged again.
And this time, it was much worse, I was depressed almost all the time. I slept for hours, I went to the doctor, he made tests… but he found nothing.
I started searching in Internet but many reports mentioned STDs and I was in panic again.

I found some information in this website and I started to read stories of people which were very similar to mine. They had similar symptoms, the same panic, and it seems to correspond with people with high demanding careers or with great responsibilities, just like me. People who were facing wave and wave of problems hitting directly in their faces, losing any hope.

I found a curious book called “A headache in the pelvis” written by Dr. David Wise and Dr. Anderson. I ordered it and read it. It explained me several of my symptoms. The book states that, although there is a minimal number of prostatitis produced by infections, there is also a psychosomatic prostatitis. All this stress, fear, nightmares, accumulated pressure, produce a constant tension of the muscles in the perineum, or the bottom of the pelvis. People easily fall in panic, got depressed and start evaluating their sexual life. If the problems that the person face look bad enough and people see no solutions within a short time, prostatitis can easily develop.

Catastrophical thinking may appear and people will start a cycle of depression. They feel bad and they have nightmares each night. And worse, the nightmares may appear at day, mixed with a strong depression It is just a problem of male? Women for sure have no prostata, but they experience also under stress, pelvic pain and muscle tension in these specific area.

This cycle of depression has to be broken someday. It is hard, I felt powerless many times. But we have to look for help. I think now I had an primal fear, to see all my work and all my life falling down due to a disaster at the last minute. But this fear was deeply inside my head, in the subconscious. It was traumatic and consisted of several fragmented or partially erased memories, and it started to grow and dominate my daily activities. I though I was simply melancholic, and may be I was before, but with the problems I became depressive. Meanwhile, my career was in a deep point of stagnation.

That’s why, the cycle of depression has to be broken and replaced with a nice life and look for support among the people we trust, and professional help. Urologists do help, because in most tests they do they find no infections, so a good psychologist with experience in psychosomatic problems can help us.

A life with heavy loads of stress has no quality anymore. And hurting ourselves with twisted relationships is nonsense. People who love each other, stay together and take care of the other person. Due to true love.
Greetings, and I hope my story can help lots of people and improve their lives a little bit.