Coping With Prostatitis

Iam a 36y.o male, I started having issues a few years back and they started me on every med to try to fix the issue, well last year I had a surgery where they make a V cut at the bladder canal and it was to be a outpatient surgery and well I ended up staying with 2 five gallon bags of Saline running through to me clear out the blood, well they thought after a few weeks and healing it worked well it didnt, so we tried more meds and then the next thing was a technique called Microwaving, well its the most painful thing but i did it, and well it didnt work and they have tried every med on the market known to man and are telling me my doctor is only wanting to take it out as a last resort, I said well I REFUSE to be sent to the UVA to be a science rat, and end up sick due to more meds they have tried already,

I told my nurse I want it out I cant live with the pain and the trying to pee all the time and i have to force it and then barely anything comes out, its not bacterial just a enlarged prostrate with a mind of its own and I just wonder ok I am 36y.o single dad to a 12y.o and I know there are risk to having it taken out but I have to , I dont want to die on all the meds they put me on, I am on the last med that only touches the pain doesnt even make a dent in it, so anyone with advice PLEASE feel free to give it, I am lost, scared and just down right mad, that I cant get this fixed right, dont we have a say in what we want,